>>33995662Look for specific kink communities in your area. Chastity isn't as much of a deal to people who are out-and-about kinksters. Probably have more luck.
>>33995771Be genuine. When you say "nice guy approach" it sounds like you're putting on a character of being nice for the specific purpose of getting (tricking?) a woman into liking you.
Inauthenticity is extremely easy to pick up, especially when women are already on edge in the dating world because of fuckboys and the like. It's cliche but "be yourself" tends to be the best option. Don't worry about being the perfect guy you'd see in a romcom. Be you, be kinda weird and quirky, be silly, enjoy the things you like without shame. You're not going to vibe with EVERYone, but if you're your most genuine self then anyone you meet will be into the real you. Instead of you having to keep up a persona for years after.
Inb4 "women hate the real me"
It's probably insecurity. Women don't dislike insecure men because they're not alpha chad bros. Women dislike insecure men because they're unstable and unpredictable, and that's not an energy you want close to you. Find ways to build your confidence: go to therapy, work on self-help hobbies (style, grooming, working out, anything you want if it makes you truly feel good), find things that make you happier with yourself and you'll become much more approachable.
>>33995807Depends on the person. Women aren't a monolith.
But to generalize, women will always feel some level of unsafe around men. It's just the world we live in. I can't speak to why she specifically brought a friend and didn't engage with the rest of the group, it could be that security or she could've just been shy, introverted, autistic, or some combination of the three.
But I really can't say for sure without knowing literally everything about you, your group, and her.
