>>21873991>>21873995First, happy new year!
Second, you raised a bunch of valid points and I don't really see anything I disagree with, and in fact have raised similar points myself in the past. For me it's not really about blame, or what have you; for me it's more about understanding one's area of influence, and focusing on one's self. You brought up the top 20% of men, and for the life of me, if a man isn't in that top 20%, I can't imagine what could be a more valid use of his time, energy, and resources, than attempting to break into said 20%.
As you mentioned, we're living in an epidemic of cultivated female narcissism, and dating/relationship dynamics are straight up bonobo tier. Social standards and institutions are gone; marriage is literally pointless. Women don't settle for losers anymore... because they don't have to. The clear solution, for me at least, is to not be a loser.
Yes, I am aware this takes considerable time and effort for most of us. I've been through it. I know what it's like to be invisible. One thing I think more men need to take to heart, and certainly something I wish I embraced earlier in life, is the importance of doing things that are good for you, even if they feel bad. A very common mistake among men is making an excess of bad choices that feel good. Women do this too, but are far less effected by their poor choices than men; as you know, as a man if you're inclined to just sit in a corner and jerk off for the rest of your life, the world is happy to oblige you, so long as you take occasional breaks to be a good little cog in the machine.
Let me leave you, and anyone who needs it, with a white pill: "making it" isn't as hard as it seems, especially if you can remain disciplined and consistent in your efforts. Also, after acquiring a certain level of physical or financial (and ideally both) formidablility, there is a sudden and dramatic shift in how women treat you; how things are isn't how things have to be.
