I'm a boymoder who passes both visually and vocally, and my experience in that regard has led me to conclude that nobody should ever "come out" unless they are also moving away from everyone who has ever known you and immediately changing all legal documents and starting a new life.

No matter how much you seem like a woman, cissoids will see you as nothing but a man as soon as they discover your agab. Oh, they may be surprised and will ask you if you want them to use any specific name or pronouns. But rest assured they WILL truly believe deep down that you are your agab, and if you tell them you don't care about pronouns, they immediately default to male. To them pronouns are just a way of pacifying the mentally ill tranny, they are not a legitimate expression of how cissoids see you.

Just don't do it, friends.