>>14957031I wish things were different. I just wish we could take the time to listen to each other. I also feel somewhat angry when I see some transbians who cannot grasp the concept that some people are not okay with dating a trans person because of their genitals. I'm not responsible for some people acting creepy or being autistic enough to not understand that no is no, though, which is why it always stings when I see some cisles go "transbians this, transbians that". Transbians are way more than a few twitter screencaps. Trans people come in all shapes and all mindsets. If you go to mtfg you'll have hopeful and cheery people as well as tranners with completely destructive mindsets. I've met awesome transbians, but I've also met despicable people I wish would suffer immensely for what they've done. But again, I wish I didn't have to suffer the damage of other people, because really, I'm just another woman, my only difference is that I had to go through a few years of transition to even feel okay putting myself out there.
In all fairness, I understand the initial apprehension that some cisles have with transbians. "You're telling me that some men can become women and that I should accept them as fellow lesbians? Bullshit!". I 100% get that because that's the thought process we have to go through as trannies. The road to self-acceptance is paved with uncertainty and phases where you tell yourself you'll never be a real woman, and you either surpass it, or you die, simply put. The difference is that I imagine cis people don't really have to surpass it, so they can decide to definitely categorize us as whatever they want, which is sad because it often ends in people making things way harder than they should be for us. Hell, I was scared of admitting to myself I was a lesbian because I was scared of the reaction of people. It's a tough process.
But I have hope. One day things will be better. I have hope for the future :)
