>>4448842I have a very submissive boyfriend who is very shy towards sex. He grew up in a religious household, it was one of those carnal pleasures he was discouraged from. It has been so fun introducing him to everything.
We're going to try a lot more, see what works for us, but mostly it's been very intimate contact that's worked best for both of us. He loves being touched so every chance I get I feel him up. He's incredibly turned on by romance, like the cheesy stuff. Dim lighting, glass of wine, flower petals on the bed... I'm the more pervy, passionate side that thinks up all the lewd scenarios. We don't do the humiliation or harmful parts of heavy femdom. Sometimes I'll tie his hands behind his back, but that's the only bondage we've ever done and will probably ever do.
I've always seen being dominant as initiating acts, and giving them to a submissive partner. It's more of the dom taking care of the sub, and providing that care rather than forcing themselves on their submissive. It's more satisfying for me to suck off my lover and watch him wiggle and blush than it would be for me to shove his head in my crotch. As the dominant partner I have more control than my submissive.
Since he's so shy I make him tell me what he wants. If he wants to come, I make him tell me where he wants to blow his load. I make him tell me who he belongs to, in beginning of sex and right towards the end. It's unbelievably satisfying seeing that hazy face and hearing him moan out that he belongs to me. A few times he's hit my cervix, and when he's close I make him say that he wants to come against my womb. He's always happily said it. We might do prostate play when he's more comfortable with that idea, but probably no pegging. Being dominant doesn't make me the man in the relationship, after all.
I'd love to get him into going without coming for at least a week to where he's begging me to do naughty things to him. I like the idea of seeing him flushed red and desperate.
